Archive for September, 2006

ANGELS ARE SINGING

Monday, September 4th, 2006

Stop telling God how big your storm is.

Instead tell your storm how big your GOD is.

In Phoenix, Arizona, a 26-year-old mother stared

down at her 6 year old son, who was dying of

Terminal Leukemia. Although her heart was filled

with sadness, she also had a strong feeling of

determination. Like any parent, she wanted her

son to grow up and fulfill all his dreams. Now

that was no longer possible..

The leukemia would see to that. But she still

wanted her son’s dreams to come true. She took

her son’s hand and asked, "Billy, did you ever

think about what you wanted to be once you grew

Up? Did you ever dream and wish what you would do

with your life?"

Mommy, "I always wanted to be a fireman when I grew up."

Mom smiled back and said, "Let’s see if we can

make your wish come true."

Later that day she went to her local fire

Department in Phoenix, Arizona, where she met

Fireman Bob, who had a heart as big as Phoenix.

She explained her son’s final wish and asked if

It might be possible to give her six-year-old son

A ride around the block on a fire engine.

Fireman Bob said, "Look, we can do better than

That. If you’ll have your son ready at seven

O’clock Wednesday morning, we’ll make him an

Honorary fireman for the whole day. He can come

Down to the fire station, eat with us, go out on

All the fire calls, the whole nine yards! And if

You’ll give us his sizes, we’ll get a real fire

Uniform for him, with a real fire hat-not a toy

One-with the emblem of the Phoenix Fire

Department on it, a yellow slicker like we wear

And rubber boots. They’re all manufactured right

Here in Phoenix, so we can get them fast."

Three days later Fireman Bob picked up Billy,

Dressed him in his fire uniform and escorted him

>From his hospital bed to the waiting hook and

Ladder truck. Billy got to sit on the back of the

Truck and help steer it back to the fire station.

He was in heaven. There were three fire calls in

Phoenix that day and Billy got to go out on all

Three calls. He rode in the different fire

Engines, the paramedic’s van, and even the fire chief’s car.

He was also videotaped for the local news

Program. Having his dream come true, with all the

Love and attention that was lavished upon him, so

Deeply touched Billy that he lived three months

Longer than any doctor thought possible.

One night all of his vital signs began to drop

dramatically and the head nurse, who believed in

the hospice concept that no one should die alone,

began to call the family members to the hospital.

Then she remembered the day Billy had spent as

a fireman, so she called the Fire Chief and asked

if it would be possible to send a fireman in

uniform to the hospital to be with Billy as he

Made his transition. The chief replied, "We can

do better than that. We’ll be there in five

minutes. Will you please do me a favor?

When you hear the sirens screaming and see the

lights flashing, will you announce over the PA

System that there is not a fire? It’s just the

Fire department coming to see one of its finest

members one more time. And will you open the window to his room?

About five minutes later a hook and ladder truck

arrived at the hospital and extended its ladder

up to Billy’s third floor open window

16 firefighters climbed up the ladder into

Billy’s room. With his mother’s permission, they

hugged him and held him and told him how much

they loved him. With his dying breath, Billy

looked up at the fire chief and said, "Chief, am

I really a fireman now?" "Billy, you are, and the

Head Chief, Jesus, is holding your hand," the

Chief said.

With those words, Billy smiled and said, "I know,

He’s been holding my hand all day, and the angels

have been singing.." He closed his eyes one last time.

The Right Person

Sunday, September 3rd, 2006
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said,
"How do I know if I married the right person?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It
depends. Is that your husband?"

In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this
question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind.
Here’s the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with
your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked
their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a
completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO
anything. That’s why it’s called "falling" in love… because it’s
happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the
imagery of that ____expression. It implies that you were just standing
there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It’s a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It’s the
natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls
become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when
it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute,
drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you
think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between
the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry
subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry
the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of
the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with
someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their
spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for
fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is
the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a
friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It
lies within it.I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with
someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be
in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to
this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT’S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It’ll NEVER

just happen to you. You can’t "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it

day in and day out. That’s why we have the __expression "the labor of

love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly,

it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific

things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your

marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe such as gravity), there

are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise

program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your

relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It’s a direct cause and

effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable…

you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"… not just a feeling.